It breaks my heart to see how many young people are going through a divorce… It breaks my heart because all they wanted was Real Love but they’ve never known what Real Love is… And so they settled for easy love, for mediocre love. People say they want a love that will last forever but they are never willing to love the other person. They just want the other person to love them instead, to satisfy the desires of their hearts, to give them what they want, to make them happy, to heal their wounds from past relationships or from fatherlessness, to make them “complete”.
And that is not love! Love is wanting what’s best for the other person, is forgetting about ourselves and give up our lives so we can focus on the lives of the ones we love. Real love honours, protects, respects, serves and upholds the dignity of the other person. A loving husband is the one that forgets about his needs, desires and dreams to give his wife and children what they need to be happy.
I don’t see that happening. Why is that? Why are married couples not loving each other?
Because while they were dating they didn't build a strong foundation for their marriage. Young people think that strong feelings of affection are enough, that Emotions= Love… They spend their relationship using each other mutually, getting what they want from each other… While real love never uses, real love is doing everything for the good of the other person…
How many couples say that the reason they are getting married is “Because he/she makes me happy!”? And the sad part is that they mean it…You can see straight away from that answer… That marriage has no good future… Because our motivation to want to get married with another person should be instead “Because I love that person so much that I want to spend the rest of my life trying to make him/her happy!” Love. Is. Not. Selfish.
Our catholic church offers a way for authentic love. The only way for authentic real love. Chastity.
Chastity in not a bunch of rules we should follow if we don’t want to go to Hell, chastity is wanting Heaven for the person we love.
Chastity is including the Author of Love inside our love relationships.
Chastity is learning from Jesus how to love our spouses with Christ’s love.
Chastity is wanting the GREATEST love possible.
Chastity is doing everything for the good of the other.
Chastity is never using the person we love.
Chastity is not concerned with your past.
Chastity is authentic, real and LASTING love.
Now is the time to choose: Am I going to do the same mistakes everyone seems to be doing or am I going to give the person that loves me the most in this world the chance for Him to give me the desires of my heart, the chance for Him to show me how Real, Authentic and Lasting Love is the Love I will have if only I trust Him.
God is Love, and his love for you has no boundaries. He knows the desires of your heart "but seek first his kingdom and righteousness and all these will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33 .
Try to meet a chaste couple and let yourself be intoxicated with their great and beautiful love. Want some examples?
"Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart" Psalm 37:4